|All women remember when they found out they was pregnant. Many times, women may have an inkling that she is expecting because she may have been trying to conceive or knew it could happen. At the age of sixteen teenagers are not thinking about having a baby. I know I wasn’t, and even if the teen is sexually active, they do not believe it could happen to them, I sure didn’t think I would get pregnant. |
For single woman well over the age of adulthood finding out she is pregnant can cause a lot of different emotions, so when a teenage learns of a pregnancy it can be very scary. The mature women will know the questions to ask, know how to prepare. Married couples may be a little scared because they understand the risks that can come with pregnancy.
When I learned I was pregnant my initial response was no! How? Although, I know how I became pregnant, I was in complete shock. I was a Junior in high school, enjoying my young life and now I am pregnant. Let me go back to the beginning of this post……Women may have an idea of conception, I had no idea, not an inkling that I was pregnant. Most teenagers who are sexually active are not trying to conceive, however, there are that small percentage of teens who are looking to have a baby. I was in denial and I know many teens who have become pregnant and were in denial, there are songs about it. (Tupac: Brenda’s got a baby) That song was extreme, however when a teenager does not know what to do or what to expect they will block it completely out of their mind. I tried to block it out but my sister knew I was pregnant and she made sure I told my mother right away, I still did not know what to expect and what my body would go through. A part of me wanted to believe I was not pregnant. These feelings I wished someone would have explained to me that my child would feel because it caused a disconnect as a baby between me as a mother with my child.
Pregnancy is a beautiful thing between two loving parents. Children do not ask to be here. Having a baby is truly a gift from God. We as parents must know the bonding and love must start in the womb. This child will experience what is imparted on them from the womb. I think this is the first and most important part of pregnancy, before the eating healthy, getting a good amount of rest, and making sure you are healthy for the baby. The stress you experience during your pregnancy the child will also experience.
At the age of sixteen I was not thinking about caring for another life, but God choose me to be a mother. If I had the knowledge of what I would go through my child would also go through, then some of the struggles my daughter and I went through could have been avoided. Young people will do things their way and do not like to listen to us adult. I know when I was sixteen, I was very hard-headed. All we can do is plant a seed and watch it grow. Someone planted a seed within me and the blossom is beautiful.
Parenting tip: I am speaking from a teenager mother perspective. This can also be helpful for a single mother, or mother who may be married and have problems in the home. Remember in the womb your child must feel the love, so they are not struggling with rejection. Stay tuned for part two so we can discuss the before and after effects to your mind and body.