As a single parent there are many occasions, I may look at my child and think, he has all his father’s ways. Many parents will not want to admit certain things that cross their mind, but I am sure at some point you have said “this child works my nerves, he or she acts just like the mother or father.” We must remember we chose that parent.
In school I remember learning about DNA and the XY chromosomes that determine the makeup of the DNA in a person. I also remember a project that I did in school that taught us how to we could determine if we would have a boy or a girl. Wouldn’t it be that nice if it was that simple. I also remember one of my aunties stating we need to go back to the day where blood test are done to make sure the parents are compatible and we know if we have a child would the DNA mix okay. I never realize that statement and how true it was until I had children myself.
The bible states in 1 Thessalonians 5:12 that we should know those we labor among. We should really take the time to get to know the person we are choosing to have a child with. As well as know their family background. People can inherit all different types of family genetics, such health conditions, diseases, and even addictions. When we understand who we are having children with we will understand how our child make up will be, or at least what the child could possibly inherit. We also need examine further down the line to future grandchildren.
The health and mental health is very important when we look at someone’s background. But let’s look at the surface, such as the attitude, laziness, drive, sense of humor, facial expressions. These things are all still a part of the DNA. I see a lot of mothers say things like my mini me, or my daughter have my attitude. Well, what about the son that is just like the father, or it can be the son is just like the mother and the daughter is just like the father. We look at so many of the negative things when we are no longer with the parent. Therefore, we make the statement “my child get on my nerves”, or he/she reminds me of the father or mother. There had to be some good traits to that person so we need to start look at the positive. When we see those negative traits, we need to do our best to correct them. Just as if we know that high blood pressure runs in our family, we are going to ensure we do the things to make sure we do not have high blood pressure. We will change out eating habits, exercise and do all the things to make sure we healthy. As parents we need to make sure we have healthy, mentally stable children. Therefore, when we see those little attitudes check them. The laziness, start to implement structure and a schedule. We need to make sure we correct all behaviors that are not healthy.
Yes, the children will act like their parent. You will see the good, bad, and the ugly. But this is your child and you will love them no matter what. We will need to break certain habits that we may see in the child. Do not ignore them make the child better. As a parent both parents need to recognize what they see in the child that is them and maybe make the change in themselves that can help the child make some changes within themselves also.